When you are at a wedding, you are there to help celebrate the love between two people. However, above all else, you are a guest of the happy couple.
The last thing you want to do is to upset the bride or groom, especially on their special day. It is the day that’s supposed to be completely perfect and all about them, and you do not want to interfere with that.
In order to make sure that no one gets angry or has their feelings hurt, follow these ground rules when attending any wedding, and you’ll be the guest every couple dreams of.
- Don’t Wear White
This one is mostly for the women, although I would advise against men wearing white suits too.
Wearing white is not only rude, it is bad luck. The only person who is supposed to wear white at weddings is the bride, so unless the bride has specified that she wants everyone to wear white, avoid it.
Even if the bride does not say anything to you at the wedding, she’ll always remember that girl who wore white to her wedding. (Not in a fond way, either.)
- Don’t Wear Black
This rule is a little bit more old-fashioned. It used to be that wearing black to a wedding was like predicting the failure of the marriage.
Nowadays, many couples are doing black tie weddings, so black dresses are acceptable. However, if it is not specified as black tie or anything like that, it is still not widely acceptable to wear black. Black is the traditional color that signifies death in formal situations, and it is still associated with funerals to this day.
So stay on the safe side and just go with something festive and bright that signals that you are rooting for the couple’s happiness.
- No Complaining
This rule kind of goes without saying.
Even if you are not enjoying yourself and the ceremony was too long, and it is too cold in the reception room, it does not matter. To be brutally honest, no one cares about what you have to complain about.
When you are at someone else’s wedding, you do not complain. You don’t get to be moody or irritated. You just have to smile and understand that it is not your day, and it does not matter what you think of the food or the music or the maid of honor’s speech.
- No Gossiping
In addition to not complaining, you should not gossip either. About anyone.
Nobody loves every single thing about anyone else. Everyone has some little habit that drives someone else crazy. However, a wedding is not the place to talk about those things.
Especially if you are talking about the bride and groom. It is their wedding day, and for that reason, they get to be totally gossip free for at least a day. Weddings are supposed to be special and happy. So just enjoy yourself and mind your own business.
- Use Your Manners
This is also a pretty common sense rule. At a wedding, you’ll probably be sitting at a table and eating with many people you do not know very well. For that reason alone, you should be using your best manners. Chew with your mouth closed, use your napkin, all the things your mom told you a hundred times over.
However, beyond that, it is important to be polite. If there’s something on your plate that you do not like, don’t eat it. However, don’t make a big deal out of not liking the food. Once again, it is not about you when you are at someone else’s wedding.
- Drink In Moderation
Although weddings seem to be a giant invitation to drink free booze and party, it is important to keep yourself in check.
Nobody likes someone who is sloppy drunk or is so drunk that they need to be taken care of. When you are that person, it draws much attention to you, especially if you make a scene.
Do the bride, the groom, and everyone else at the wedding a favor and keep your drinking in check.
Make sure to avoid those six faux-pas when attending a wedding, and you’ll be a great guest to any bride and groom. Make sure you also get a great gift! If you need some ideas you can visit sites like weddings-magazine.com!
Kate Stefanski is the sort of girl who has been planning her dream wedding for a long time, and writes on wedding related topics whenever she gets the chance. If you wish to learn more about Kate you can visit on Google+.